My Kids Tell Me When They Make a Mess
My kids tell me when they make a mess. I’m learning to meet them with patience, keep expectations clear, and own my mistakes when I get it wrong.
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Neurodivergence
Loving Someone Isn’t the Same as Making Sure They Feel Loved
Loving someone takes more than good intentions. I’m learning to ask what helps them feel loved, communicate clearly, and make room for both our needs.
Trophy Love: When Looking Loved Isn’t the Same as Feeling Loved
Trophy love looks good in pictures. Real love makes room for honesty, accountability, and clear communication—even when the conversation gets uncomfortable.
My Silence Isn’t Permission: Leadership, Boundaries, and a Neurospicy Brain
Going quiet doesn’t mean I’m okay with disrespect. My neurospicy brain is processing—and I’m learning where patience ends and a firm boundary begins.
Still Here Matters: Suicide, Neurodivergence, and the Things People Do Not See
More than two years after my March 2024 suicide attempt, I am still here—and still learning what it means to let people see the hard parts before it gets that far.
At 30, the Sim Gem Cracked: Grief, Ego Death, and the Life I Had to Rebuild
My grandmother died when I was 30, and I lost the only support system I felt I had. What followed was less a “midlife crisis” than an ego collapse—and a hard look at grief, codependency, neurodivergence, and rebuilding a self.
When Safe Feels Boring: Why Calm Can Feel Suspicious After Trauma
When chaos was familiar, calm can feel suspicious—or even boring. This Trauma Series post looks at why, especially when trauma and neurodivergence overlap.
Trauma Bonds Aren’t Love. Real Bonds Feel Safe.
A trauma bond can make pain, relief, and loyalty feel tangled together. Real bonds are consistent, respectful, and safe enough for you to stay yourself.
Trauma Doesn’t Stop Your Brain From Developing. It Changes What It Develops For.
Trauma does not freeze a person at the age it happened. It can shape what the brain learns to prioritize—and for neurodivergent people, those layers can get complicated fast.