My grandmother died when I was 30, and I lost the only support system I felt I had. What followed was less a “midlife crisis” than an ego collapse—and a hard look at grief, codependency, neurodivergence, and rebuilding a self.
When chaos was familiar, calm can feel suspicious—or even boring. This Trauma Series post looks at why, especially when trauma and neurodivergence overlap.
A trauma bond can make pain, relief, and loyalty feel tangled together. Real bonds are consistent, respectful, and safe enough for you to stay yourself.
Trauma does not freeze a person at the age it happened. It can shape what the brain learns to prioritize—and for neurodivergent people, those layers can get complicated fast.